Change. The word makes us shudder. Humans, science tells us, are wired to resist change. Chance takes work. Change is uncertain. Change means leaving behind the familiar and taking risk. And from the beginning of man, we are afraid of risk.

That’s a problem when we have ig goals and big dreams.

It is a problem because whatever we want, whatever our big dream or big goal (and it does not matter if you are a person or an organization) is going to take change. If it did not, we’d already be where we dream of being. But of course, we aren’t. That’s why we are dreaming it. That’s why we have this big goal in front of us still.

Because it is change. And change makes us anxious.

But there is something we can do about that. Science, psychiatrists and therapists and neuroscientists (and a lot of us coaches too) understand that something called “framing” changes the way we see things.

For instance, “Change” makes us nervous. But the word “Transformation” excits us. Change brings on resistance. Tansformation is something we reach for. Change feels limiting. Transformation feels limitless. 

And it is. Limitless I mean.

So let me ask you something. Have you tried to make some change in your life and not quite made it? Do you have goals and dreams that seem to elude you? If you are anything like me, you do. In fact, if you are reading this far, you almost certainly do.

Time to change the word you use. Banish change from your vocabulary for a while. Your verbal vocabulary and your mental vocabulary. Go ahead, try it for a few days. See what it feels like. And check back here.

I am about to make a change, oops, Tansforationin how I do things. The classes and courses I used to teach live now and again I am going to be putting on line. I have experimented with doing this for a while, failed a couple of times. (Yay! Failure is a step forward! I now know what NOT to do.) and I am ready for the transformatin.

And you will get to take part., if you are interested.

Each week or sometimes a couple times a week I will be putting part of one of my courses here in short little mini courses like this one. When enough of them are done, I will record them with slides and backup material and yes, me talking and teaching on line.

The whole idea is this: Ten years of coaching have taught me something important. Success (Transformation) is too often presented as a to do list. “Do these things and voila! Success.). The “to do list” method of sucess works for a few people, but not most of us. So most of us read books (I have forty years worth of success books on my bookshelves), or we spend a lot of time and money on seminars and webinars and still somehow, we are in the same place.

Is it because we are dumb? Nope. Is it because we are somehow lacking? Nope. Is it because (insert your own excuse here.). Nope.

It is because what the “to do” path to success leaves out something very important. Our spirits. It is a mass produced method that does not take into account the fact that we all are individuals and we all have our own roadblocks and struggles to work through the to do list.

I know this beccause I have been down that path myself. I know this because since 2011 I have been working with coaching clients, individuals and organizations, most of whom have like me, taken all sorts of classses and webinars, and in some cases other coaches, and still did not reach their dreams.

And we got there.

Why? Because success is spiritual. Not religious, but spiritual. It depends more on our spirits being strong in a world that does not know how to build strong spirits, than ability, or the to do list you follow. In a world that is always looking for the quick fix answer, none of these programs and few coaches take the time to understand. THey do not lead you to an understanding.

These courses will.

More on the courses and classses will show up here over the next weeks and months, in the form of lessons here and on line classes. 

But for now, forget all that. Think about the word. Transformation. Pack away the word change for a while. Do this one thing and you will discover, not a dread of the work, but an excitement, and will already find yourself moving foward.

Be well, Travel wisely,

Tom

PS: I have not recorded any classses yet, but if you want a preview of what I am building, feel free to go take a peek at the foundation of what I am creating, of my own transformation by clicking here.

PPS: If you are interested in my coaching or consulting, please cick here and we will set up a time to talk. No pressure. No BS.